Wow! It’s been a while since I last blogged or blogged consistently for that matter. I missed y’all! Every once in a while I would get an idea that I wanted to blog about, but honestly, those ideas were few and far between. I just didn’t feel inspired enough to write. What I later realized is that my priorities have changed. When I started Tiarra Talks, I was lost trying to find my voice . . . trying to find myself. Well, let me tell you, she has arrived! Don’t get me wrong, I will never stop growing, but I’m no longer hiding in the shadows trying to figure out my purpose. She is here!
Over the past few months, my friends and even some strangers were constantly reminding me that I’m “responsible” and “safe.” It bothered me that people only thought of me in that way. “I can be fun. . .well, I used to be fun,” I thought. It annoyed me that people would always call me out during my “responsible” moments. My last straw was when I was picking out new frames after my eye exam and the manager was adamant that I needed something more “fun,” because she thought the frames I picked were boring. I played along with her trying on frames that I would never pick for myself, then finally, enough was enough. I’m good lady, I know what I like as I chose the “boring” frames that I initially picked.
It was in that moment that I realized, I am who I am. If that means I’m responsible and safe, then so fucking be it. It was time that I embraced me for who I am and own that shit. I swear to you, a new version of me instantly emerged. Then, my recent trip to Atlanta just solidified the confident, refined version of me that was hiding under my layers of wife, mommy, and HR professional all along. I felt so free just loving on myself and finally loosening the hell up. I know I can be uptight sometimes, so it felt amazing to just live.
So, let’s talk. Have you had your a-ha moment about yourself yet? Were you finally able to release and live your best life? If not, what are you waiting for?
Listen, now that I’ve freed myself from being so tightly wound, I can truly focus on other things that I’ve put on and off for years, like weight loss. I know y’all probably sick of me talking about it. Hell, me too! But, my perception is different now as I’m looking at myself with a pair of new lenses (literally and figuratively LOL). I believe you have to be in a certain head space to focus on something that requires complete dedication and commitment such as weight loss and, until now, my life has been too damn hectic for me to focus on anything else.
My platform, Inspire. Speak Loudly. Be Your Best Self, is unchanged, and I will continue to raise questions that challenge us to live our best lives. But, right now, I feel so inspired by family and friends who have challenged themselves to live healthier lives that now it’s my turn to do the same. I hope that you will follow me on this journey and feel inspired to do the things in your lives that make you feel happy and whole! My revamped site Tiarra Talks: Weight loss and Motherhood goes live July 2nd. See you then!