I struggled with writing a post last week. I planned to write a “Woman is Power” post in honor of International Women’s Day. I had so much inspiration around me that it should have been easy, right? I mean this is a blog for women . . . women who are courageous, empowering, and goal-driven. And yet, I just couldn’t find the words. I had nothing to say as my family had suffered a huge, unexpected loss. It hurts, y’all. But when we have losses, we are reminded of what we have and how important it is to cherish the time we have with those we love and who loves us.
My cousins were my first best friends and you could always catch us plotting at the end of the night for a sleep over. Today, I think about all the family events that I left the kids with my hubby because I wanted to enjoy myself without the stress of parenting. But now I realize that I may have robbed them of those special moments to bond with their cousins and make their own memories. Nothing compared to the game nights, BBQs, and road trips. Those were the days! But as our lives evolved and changed, the fun times came fewer and farther in between. And I have this horrible habit of pushing people away, both family and friends. It’s like the older I get, the most distant I become. Not because they’ve wronged me or made me feel unloved. I’m just such an introvert, and living in a bubble has always been my comfort zone. So, I’ll decline that invitation to get together with family or I’ll put off calling my favorite aunt or uncle because I’m awkward and just don’t know what to say. Yet, when I see the love and fun that I missed out on in pics on social media, I immediately regret not being there to help create those memories.
So, let’s talk.
Are you loving on your family? Are you making time to stay connected and close? Or does it take unfortunate circumstances to bring the family together?
Listen. Seeing my family last weekend was exactly what my soul needed. I know we all say that it takes a bad situation to bring people together, and it’s true, but I haven’t seen my family in person in years and I thank God for the opportunity to just hug them tight and tell them I love them. We are living in unpredictable times, so I have to get over my awkwardness and seriously love on my family now while we’re still here. I know this pandemic has made it challenging to plan that next family gathering, but you can pick up the phone, send a text, or have a zoom party. Do whatever you need to do to stay connected. To my family, I am so grateful for your presence, your love, and your strength. I love y’all so much! Let’s keep going, y’all. We got this!