As we wind down 2017 and prepare for the new year, I’m sure many people are planning their new year resolutions or in other words, letting social media know who and what they’re leaving behind in 2018. I’ve never been one to get caught up in resolutions making promises to myself that are never kept. I know me, and if you know me by now, then you know I have commitment issues. Generally speaking, I honestly can’t remember any goals that I’ve set for myself besides weight loss. I’ve never been a goal setter, and I don’t know if that has helped me or hurt me in my 30 years of living, but I’ve never even thought about it until now.
I didn’t set goals on what my career path would be or when to start a family. Those things just happened during the course of my life. I’ve never had a desire to do something or achieve something by a specific age or anything like that. I mean, I’ve accomplished some things in life that I’m damn proud of, but there were no goals in mind that I can contribute to those successes. I mean, I worked hard and life happened.
For example, as corny as it sounds, I didn’t choose human resources as a career; it chose me. I had a Walmart scholarship for business, got a B.A. in Marketing, and was promoted from intern to Assistant Manager at Walmart right after graduation. But, it was the two years during my internship that I spent most of my time working with the ladies in Personnel (because the sales floor team really couldn’t be bothered with me) that jump started my HR career. Could my career have gone a different path if I didn’t have that scholarship? Or for any other reason? Maybe, in fact, most likely. I never imagined a career in retail management. Even as an intern, I knew retail was not a good fit for me, but when I was offered an opportunity right out of college, I couldn’t pass it up. But truthfully, I’m not sure what kind of job I would have had after college had it not been for my internship. Hell, I only accepted the internship because it paid more than my campus job. I really had no plan, y’all.
My husband and I started our family very early on in our relationship. . .and without a plan. It was that one time we made the decision not to take precautionary measures to prevent getting pregnant that we conceived. And, it wasn’t until after our first son was born that we really began to make a plan for our family. But listen, what a blessing we received! And, 8 years later we have been married 5 years with 3 healthy, beautiful children.
Finding this new sense of self has really opened my eyes to a life that I had not realized I was living, but now my eyes are wide open as I’m just beginning to understand what it really means to live purposefully. I find myself thinking differently, setting goals, requiring more for myself and from others, and establishing an agenda that propels me to higher heights of personal success and happiness.
So, let’s talk. Are you goal slayer or one that accepts life as it comes? Has that helped or hurt you in the past? Any resolutions or plans for 2018?
My stance on new year resolutions have not changed. I won’t dictate my life goals based on society’s time frame, but it would silly for me not to acknowledge that the new year is symbolic for the chance to hit the reset button. So, with a feeling of such liberation, 2018 will graciously yet unapologetically be the year of ME! I will be focusing more on my writing, health & fitness, and reading. I see so much zen and bliss in my near future that I get goose bumps just thinking about it! I’m shifting all of the negativity that surrounds this world to focus on the moments that bring me joy. I’m slaying goals and living purposefully. So, what say you? What kind of year will 2018 be for you?